Morning, your situation sound very similar and unfortunately it’s hard to change and break the cycle without breaking eggs. Both sides of a partnership are at risk when addiction is present. Admitting you have a problem is easily the hardest part, even if your only saving it for a weekend it’s still as destructive to the partnership. Sometimes drastic measures are the only thing that can snap someone into submission and insisting that person gets professional advice is your only way you can escape this death dive lifestyle. Addicts have no self control and are horribly selfish at the moment of consuming the “evil” and although someone can be the sweetest person when not taking, it always ends in tears. You have already realised that it’s not what you want in your lives and it’s not a lot to ask! Happy fun exciting weekend are what make life living. You sound like you want to move forward with life ????????♂️ Drink and drugs can’t really be taken in moderation by an addict as you probably already know, so you must make changes in your life to help the addict the best you can. If you genuinely care for that person then try as many safe tactics as you can to help then get real professional help and if they don’t except they have a problem then you need to move to the next stage until you get that lifestyle you deserve. Regardless if you have a mortgage or it’s your only place to live or the last slice of bread in the packet, if you don’t make changes you will blink and 10yrs will have passed. Addiction is a Cancer! It’s a horrible horrible illness and it’s hidden. I know many people who drink 2 bottles of wine every night 7 days and teach a class of kid in the morning and still think it’s normal, well it’s not and the partner in the relationship doesn’t think its normal. Getting help is the most important decision you will ever make and one year of pain now for a life of freedom is a small price to pay. I wish you the best of Luck x
