Thanks for your replies ladies.
It seems so unfair that we are the ones with the constant worry, stress and anxiety as well as the responsibility of our kids. My husband doesn’t have a care in the world as he’s burying his head in he sand.
I see him kind of like a child, unable to make responsible choices and this is not how a marriage should be. A marriage should be for the mutual support of each other…. this just isn’t right.
I’m the same as you Jules1980 I don’t leave my kids with him anymore so I basically have no social life. He says when I go out in the evening it’s one of his triggers so I’ve stopped going out at all.
I’m so glad your husbands are clean right now and I pray for a happy ending for you both.
I heard a great analogy recently, that as soon as a person takes cocaine it’s like a seed is planted in the brain.
You water the seed by continuing to use cocaine and it grows into a tree, getting bigger and bigger, overtaking more and more of the persons personality.
The only way to kill the tree is to stop watering it (using cocaine). As it shrivels and dies and more and more of the person comes back.
Eventually all that’s left is the seed, which will always be there but is totally harmless as long as you don’t water it.
Sending lots of love xxx