Thanks, That’s Ok, yeah she is a really good friend she was their for me when my dad died, and i had no one to talk to during a difficult time, i Cared for a lot before then as well, and i do really care about her a lot Still
I agree we need to get professional help, Which is what we have been trying to do with Crisis and the mental health teams, So hopefully after next week we will hear something new.
I also Feel she needs to cut everyone , Drug Dealers, Friends from that Life, and stop the “arranagements”
yeah i know that she is too Familiar with me and how i will react, she would start by asking for a favour, then saying DW, then telling me she has an arrangement and will i be ok with it, Saying to me if i send some money over she won’t do it.
at least once i called her bluff
once i gave in
and twice she did the arrangement anyway, after i sent money over to her
one she flat out lied about, i knew it when she was lying to me even told her i didnt blame her as she needs money she might as well be paid twice,
and once was in my house – I found out about this after “snopping on her phone” which is my understanding is quite common, even better he was in my house for at least 5 hours alone, With Cocaine in my house and she flat out denies using it, but it quiet apparent from her messages to him and friends that she does.
both of these was with the guy who sorted out her car, which he said he would again but has F Off out of the Country
What i don’t know with all the drugs and everything does she just block these out and has know idea or is she just plain Lying to me?
I thing its the former as she appears to be taken pictures all the time of the guy in my house, cocaine and screen shots of messages and she does Coke and other drugs to forget?
I have been going to Al-anon and will be going to more meetings, in the future. so this will be helping me cope.