Hiya im struggling with coke and lapsing once every month a bout..
Your are totally right about the starting arguments to get coke.
In his head he will be going through emotional, mental, physical relapse.
So emotional comes 1st.. he will start arguments to get coke, or feel down cause problems. Its your brain playing tricks on you. Im not defending him here but its horrible going through it. If he never ever tried it, well obvioulsy he wouldnt be this person. Some get hooked more than others. He wont mean things he says. Its just what it does.
He defo needs to quit drinking as this is a main trigger to get coke.
Have u any kids?