Ye its a rough one. But we make our own decisions. My cousin gave me cocaine 1st. I crack jokes blaming him. But it was me who said yes.
We cant blame other people for our own actions. But thats just my opinion.
Your mate did great really and if it was me id be forever greatful, which i guess you are. But its time to cut out them mates altogether now. You have 4 kids and your health to think of now. You need some new hobbies