Hi Don,
I’m sorry to read of your partner’s addiction and the affect it is having on you. If you would like to have some help for yourself you may like to contact us at Icarus Trust. We are a charity that provides support for people in your situation and we could put you in touch with one of our trained and experienced people. Talking to them might help you and they would also let you know what else is available to you.
You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org
Good luck.