Hey, I am also married to someone who abused alcohol, cocaine and marijuana. I walked out 5 months ago as I couldn’t take it anymore, I tried to deal with it for 13 years but decided enough is enough and left with my kids. As it is early stage for u, do u think u would like to give him a chance to stop the drugs and if he still carries on, then u can choose what u feel u need to do. I only say this as I sometimes wish I left much sooner. The cycle of relapse, apologies, broken promises went on and on for so long, I was so tired at the end, i no longer believed anything he said and that’s not a nice way to live. We also struggled financially, kids missed out on dad time. He wants to make up for it and I do pray he changes but I have read all about addiction and I have to say, I’m not getting my hopes up. Like you said, this is a habit he restarted after all these years same with my husband and thats what scares me cos addiction is a life changer and the success rates for staying sober, clean is pretty low from what I have read. But u never know. Plus my husband has finally asked for help plus he is doing some CBT stuff at home which explores the habit, why he does it, advantages, disadvantages, etc hopefully might make him think a bit more about it, this is not something he has ever done. Anyways just wanted to say you’re not alone and only you know how much you can/want to put up with. Sorry not much advice as I am still in the situation because I dont want to divorce him, I really do love him and he is my best friend but only when sober. But i am also waiting for his next relapse, so far he has been clean and sober for 2 weeks, 3 weeks was his longest. I hate it cos whenever i see him, i try to work out if he has used and that again is no way to live.
