Thank you for replying James its really interesting to hear from different perspectives. I am trying to give him space and am trying to understand but when it comes down to it I don’t understand at all. We have been out tonight with his brother and his wife who have no clue as to what has been going on. My husband has not had a drink tonight and I think this is to show me he can kick his bad habits. I however have had numerous drinks and am feeling pretty vulnerable as I am drunk. I am trying to move forward as if this hasn’t ever happened and I feel I could be in denial. The trouble is I believe that my husband has stopped and I believe it is as easy as that…. All the secrecy and lies were just a thing he was doing and now he has owned up and he has stopped. I understand this makes me naive but it sits well with me and allows me to feel like things as are normal again. Maybe I’m just ranting but this is how I feel right now as I type this. I do believe he can change and some of the stories on here are purely negative which makes it hard for me to be positive and believe anything my husband says. Time will tell what will happen and I suppose only I cam make any decisions about my future. Thanks to everyone who had read and replied
