Sounds like your having a awful time , I’ve had many of those over the years with my sons addiction to cocaine. It’s a lonely place to be in at times as any other illness you can talk about freely but I find it difficult as not many people know my situation. I’ve had too many embarrassing situations caused by him my skin is like a rhino now . It’s a horrible drug. I’m sorry I can’t give you any useful advice. I should be able to I had years of experience but I have no answers. I muddle through one calamity to the next . One thing I learnt was not to take anything he says to heart anymore. I used to get so upset when he said hurtful things etc but I’ve learnt to not respond and I suppose it’s easier for me I can leave he doesn’t live with me . Hope everything settles down for you. The nights are always worse I find. Sorry not much help but wish you well.