Hi, as an addict I can just say you’re doing the right thing by giving him non judgemental support. I wouldn’t tell your Dad as it would only add to everyones stress that you all must be going through.
From personal experience I would say if hes already had some or it’s the day after, it’s going to make him feel worse if you’re having a go and hes more likely to use again. And I know partners of addicts have every right to get angry and upset, I just think it’s best to pick a better time.
What works for me is my partner checking on me loads and giving me no good reason at all to buy it. Its reduced my amount so much and although I still buy a little occasionally, the guilt I feel if she finds out or if I get it with her knowing just kills the high and pretty pointless.
It’s just about giving him support whilst making sure he knows how much it hurts you all when he uses, without making him feel like hes no good.
It’s the hardest thing in the world to beat but with my partners amazing support and because she is the kindest person you would ever meet I have to win more battles then I lose with the devils drug, and will never give in.
I hope your brother fights harder