‘Husband’ would not get ill if he didn’t sniff cocaine, it would just be the comedown. When going out for a drink with certain people he said he would have a line because he was offered it. This he said made him able to carry on drinking long past the ‘non users’.
He would come in not seeming drunk but the following days he would be sleeping it off. He would then be sniffing all the time and blowing his nose. He would have blinding headaches and he couldn’t work on these days. He complained of flu like symptoms and would cough up blood.
Before the abuse of the cocaine which became every day, he didn’t lie to me he was a normal, loving, hardworking man.
Now he is a constant liar and manipulator. Mardy if he doesn’t get what he wants and has left a lot of debt with credit card bills and he owes ‘people’ an awful lot of money.
He is in prison now, has been for nearly a year but that doesn’t stop the bailiffs from knocking at my door. Never his cell door.
I didn’t see this coming as he hid it from me well. But believe me I do not give in to his asking for money to pay ‘such and such’ even though he is inside.
I didn’t enable him by giving him money, but it looks like I enabled him by paying all of our outgoings. I should have made him pay them, that would have made a significant hole in his pocket and he would have had to go to work.
If only I had known what I know now. Don’t enable in any way shape or form.