Well if he spoke with you then that’s a little bit of him including you init.
Mine was loyal for 22 years, great man and we had it all. Holidays three times a year good jobs etc to this nightmare. Sounds like he is trying to include you. I get the odd message about the kids that’s it. Even got a message asking if we should buy joint birthday presents for the kids which is weird being as though we’re separated. Wished he’d just communicate but in truth I don’t think he can forgive himself for cheating on me. He hated guys that did that as his mum cheated on his dad and he held firm beliefs about it then he did it to me. . Gutted how we went from the cute couple to this. We was honestly a couple you’d not have thought we’d been together so long as we held hands on the sofa at night and cuddled in public still.