Unfortunately denial is common with addiction. It’s a problem when people start to recognize changes in behavior, mood and general characteristics. I think I walked away because of the behaviors – cheating on me, lying and mood swings. He became a shadow of his old self in the end. Didn’t seem to care about anything other than himself. Used to shout at the kids for no reason and I became non existent.
Leaving my ex didn’t seem to change anything which hurts alot because we wasn’t even his rock bottom. They have to admit to themselves they have a problem then want to seek help. Motivation has to come from within. Unfortunately it’s a waiting game now – it could go on for years which is the scary part because by that time usually partners move on.