It sounds very familiar although my partner hasn’t said he wants to try to change aside from worrying about his daughter.
When we met we would have dinner together and he’d have a couple of beers a night but nothing major. Now it’s the same – he always wants weed after dinner or sniff. I don’t drink now and have never taken drugs so I just don’t get it. It’s such a waste of money and it stinks too!
I’m missing terribly the person I met – I don’t know where he’s gone but I’d like to try and get him back.
He’s also had a dreadful childhood with his father dying young of a heroin overdose and his brother died later in a car accident. I stupidly thought he would see a life with me as take the opportunity to start doing better but I think my success just makes it worse for him.
I’m not being terribly helpful – sorry! Guess just good to know you aren’t alone in it all.