Hi everyone
Firstly, Kathryn, your post made me cry. What a terrible thing to happen – my heart goes out to you and your family.
Secondly, reading all the other posts is both upsetting and powerful at the same time. I have just told my 21 year old son to leave after yet another incident where he came home completely out of it on some kind of drug (ketamine, diazepam or something like that). I had told him previously (he ended up in an ambulance after falling asleep on the bus and was totally unresponsive) that if he came home like that again I would have to kick him out but after numerous more times, I had no choice but to follow through this time. He left that day (last Monday) and by Thursday he had moved down to London from Yorkshire with a friend who already lives there as he is at Uni.
He was meant to be coming round last Wednesday to get his stuff and say goodbye but when I rang him, he couldn’t even speak and ended up hanging up on me cos he was clearly off his head on something again. Literally 3 days after I had kicked him out, he was in that state again. He ended up coming round on Thursday morning as i was rushing to go to work, and had no recollection of the phone call. It was incredibly hard for both of us to say goodbye. I am still devastated now, but I know deep down it was the right decision. He has never had a permanent job and just keeps saying how he is going to change etc but obviously never does.
I really want him to come home, but I have realised I was enabling his behaviour so it’s important that I stick to my guns even though it’s killing me.
Thank you all for sharing your stories and making me realise that I’m not alone and there are many more people in the same boat. None of my friends or family truly understand so this is really helpful for me.
xx