Thank you for your advice – it turns out he has his son last night and has got up to attend a PT session this morning. I shouldn’t judge and think the worse I suppose but that’s what living so far does to you. He’s boasted that he’s 15 days sober (that’s how long I haven’t seen him for). I just hope he keeps it up as if he does fail I think it will be a huge downer for him which I can imagine he won’t let me in.
If your husbands step mum is condoning it then it’s almost making it look like it’s only you that has a problem with it! I can see your almost fighting a losing battle. My boyfriend has a 2 year old son with his ex wife so since sober he’s been doing more productive things with him it’s almost like he feels guilty for being hungover since he was born. It really helps to off load on you on this so thank you very much x