I usually go down to see him every other weekend when he has his son and he comes up to me when he doesn’t. So we’ve seen each other every weekend since we met back in November, however since the last time he drank and I told him it wasn’t normal that he drank and did drugs every weekend, we didn’t argue I was just a little off and distant that evening from him. He’s asked me for some space and to leave him to “soul search” whilst he tries to fix himself. This has been his lifestyle for ten years. My worry is that he doesn’t come back to me however we are still talking everyday however not as close as we was for example he no longer says I love you or I miss you etc (only past two weeks) I’m just putting that down to him being in a mixed up emotional state with himself at the moment. He tells me he just needs to get himself in a good place and that he doesn’t want to lose me or hurt me. I just need to hopefully give it another week if he stays sober and hopefully he will start talking about coming to see me or me going to see him again. It’s killing me not knowing what he’s thinking about me and us but I suppose that needs to wait if he’s 15 days sober and hopefully he comes back to me.
Regarding his step mum using I would say anything to his dad as it may effect your relationship with him however if she has an episode where she does it with your partner again then you need to have that conversation with her as it’s effecting your relationship direct.
He hasn’t got the right people around him has he do any of his friends take them as much as he does? He’s going to have to take himself out of that lifestyle or situation.