It is so expensive, I completely understand where you are coming from when you say its either rehab or a funeral, its so heartbreaking. I definitely don’t have the money to put my ex into rehab. I told his dad who wanted to help him and he offered the money to do it. His dad earns less that what my ex does and it just wouldn’t be fair to take money off him. My sister said that it wouldn’t work for him type of addiction and that he could stop for 2-4 weeks that he was there but it is a protected environment and wont help him deal with it while he is back at home. But there have been success stories with rehab.
The groups are free and supported by charities, you will be surprise how many there are around your areas, I thought I was out in the sticks but there are so many to choose from. I don’t know what the alternative is at the moment with everything being closed down.
Its such good news that he has recognised that he wants to get the help and needs it, that’s a really good start, i wish my ex was in the same position! I’ve tried the stopping enabling business with my ex but he is so controlling (we still live together pending the sale of our flat that isn’t going to happen for ages now because of what is going on!) he will just do it in the flat and i cant do anything about it, i cant kick him out because he wont move as he says that the flat is his, but he never put a penny towards the deposit or the fees when buying the flat, it was all me and my parents. But his name is on the mortgage so legally it is his! I have tried to flush the drugs if i see them but he can snatch them back off me and i don’t want him to hurt me. I don’t know what i can really do to stop enabling him?