Thank you for sharing this . Firstly it made my heart really sad as you are so right I know there is a possibility that he won’t change and that makes me so sad and worried as I genuinely have never felt more loved and cared for in the past few years being with him (sounds odd I know ) because apart from the relapses he’s my soulmate , I was married for years to someone who did not make me feel this way and I am so sad that there could be a chance that this won’t be the ‘one’ when I do want it to be . Having said that I know I will be fine after the heartache if he won’t stop and I am strong enough to leave if I have to , I won’t accept lying he knows that now and when I asked him to his face he didn’t lie which is my only consolation right now although in effect doing it for the past few months is indirectly lying anyway . The other thing that stood out of what you have said is the thinking he’s better than those at the group , this was why we stopped he kept telling me I’m not like them I am fine they are different – now I understand he was right they are different because they take it seriously and are doing something to get themselves better and this is what he needs to understand this time round it’s such a shame though that the groups are currently closed but he has promised he will go to them and we are reading through the literature and starting together on the first step in the programme and speaking it through each night . Thank you for your comment it’s really helped me
