I’m sorry that at this really stressful time you have all this to cope with too. I’m so glad you found this forum and that you are able to talk with others in similar situations, which I hope helps to know that you’re not alone.
I work for a charity called The Icarus Trust. We offer support to the people who are dealing with the impact of a partner’s addiction. We know how hard this can be so we have experienced trained people who understand what you are going through, that you could talk to. If you contact us I can put you in touch with one of them. May be that would help you.
You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org
All the best to you.