His friend uses as well, it always gets so much worse when his friends are around. He has known a few of them since his teens, so he didn’t like me trying to discourage him from seeing them. I didn’t like to be controlling either, but I didn’t know what else to do. It didn’t work anyway.
He has terrible paranoia and delusions sometimes due to the cocaine, or even an underlying mental condition..I don’t know. I have called the police a few times when he frightened me. So I know if he doesn’t stop I can’t be around him and risk my safety anyway. I had told him that before but it was soon forgotten by him.
It’s awful when you keep going over things in your head, isn’t it? Like replaying scenarios and wondering if you could have done something to stop it working out that way…
But I guess it’s important for us to remember that we can’t control another person and do the work for them if they don’t want to.
Unfortunately, for the time being, I think mine is a long way from reaching a point where he will stop. But I have hope I suppose.
At least yours is getting help now. You are doing the best thing by backing off, same as I am. It’s hard because we miss them, but ultimately there’s not a lot we can do about the situation.
It is definitely helpful to read around the forums. A lot of other people are having the same experience, drugs don’t discriminate I guess. We can only stay positive for ourselves and hope that things will work out, one way or another.x