He might let you go if you decide to leave him and give him the ultimatum.
It depends how far down the road he is.
Still I think it’s a chance you should take even if it hurts. As he is becoming abusive to you and you cant let that go on.
It will hurt if it doesn’t go how you want but it’ll get better in time and ultimately it’s really something you have no control over.
I’m still in limbo with mine in a way but theres been no contact in almost a month now, its pretty obvious what his choice was.
Life goes on I suppose.
Sorry you’re going through this.