Hi FatheroF3. I can see why you posted on my thread. It is as if the experiences are the same. I know that depression, exhaustion and frustration. Knowing the children need us while our spouse just does whatever he/she wants. My husband walked out 2 months ago so I have no idea what he is doing or when. He goes days without calling his children, weeks without seeing them. We moved around alot for his job. When we were in different states there wasn’t as much as a problem. But as soon as we moved here, 3 years ago, he knew exactly where the drugs would be. Afterall, these were his old stomping grounds. Guess I wanted to believe that the hard working, dedicated, trustworthy husband wasn’t the person I thought he was. I know he is hurting, just like your wife is hurting but it’s different than our pain. Not that it’s an excuse but they get to numb their pain. While ours is raw and almost undescribeable.
You aren’t alone. I feel the same way you do. I want to tell him to come get the rest of his belongings and file the divorce paperwork myself. It’s so terribly hard to know what to do. I am lost and that’s why I’m glad I found this site and posts like yours. While I wish you weren’t going through this, it is nice to know that I’m not alone.