Hi FatheroF3! How are you? Thanks so much for the information. I reached out to a local attorney here and it appears I wouldn’t have enough for the Marchman Act. I’ve decided to let him go. I don’t want to but he made his choice. Rejection, abandonment and shame has consumed me for the past 3 months. I was holding out hope and praying for a miracle.
He isnt going to realize his mistakes. He isnt going to come home. He chose to leave me for a homeless drug addict / alcoholic. He chose to chose that life over ours. I put everything into our life, our family and our future.
I thought there were a few steps in the right direction as he cried a few times when he was here. When he asked for my advice when talking with family after his dad died (they weren’t close). But those werent signs. It was me being desperate and foolish. He chose to be with people who have criminal pasts including trafficking drugs. He told me that one of their “friends” overdosed on the bathroom floor of his apartment and my husband performed CPR and saved his life. He told me that person died a few days later. But he still went back to that environment, that life. I am beginning to believe that the past 12 years were a lie.
I think it’s just better for me to walk away. As much as I dont want to. I’ve asked him to get the rest of his belongings and he has refused. He is stalling for what reason I do not know. He doesnt make an effort to see our children. He just left us and only provides minimal money for groceries while I know he supports his new girlfriend and their new friends. All of these “friends” all came from her. I was able to track them back to her and the connection to her is from the handyman that was at our house for months and who my husband considered a “friend”. I’m not wanted. The kids arent wanted and it’s time to bury the hope and love I was holding onto. While I was at the hospital my husband was getting high and moving on, planning his escape. I am an exceptional person and a really good wife. It’s time I remember who I was and get back to loving myself and being strong for my kids.
How is your situation going?