Hi, sorry to hear your story. Sounds very similar to mine but with my mum. My dad always says he will leave her. Then she fixes herself up a bit and he stays, just for her to relapse again. She lies to us all the time and also drinks neat vodka. Not sure how she’s still alive as she can drink a litre a day over a period of time. Not sure when or how she even gets to the shop but she manages somehow. Unfortunately for us, we have to face the reality of their decisions to drink, where as the alcoholic family members continue to feel numb and seemingly don’t care about the consequences or feelings of their family members. I’m tired of trying to understand or help my mum at this stage.
I do hope you feel some comfort in knowing you aren’t alone. Although I know it doesn’t help the situation you’re in. Take care x