Really good to hear you’ve spoken to someone from Al Anon. They’ve literally been a lifeline for me and many people dealing with the affects of substance misuse.
The thing about negativities is more about detachment. If you detach from the addicts behaviour then you take it’s power away from you. It’s all designed to shift the focus back onto you so you begin to take care of yourself. It’s far from easy watching your life slip away from you. It’s in no way a criticism.
I’m glad he has attempted getting support, however I am aware that they will only change when they want to change, so I agree with you on that.
Some alcoholics might have a level of control, and that can be frustrating in it self, but to sustain that for longer periods of time presents it’s challenges for an addict. Look at it this way – the addict may not drink when his daughter comes along, but he knows full well that he will after his daughter leaves which would make it easier to maintain sobriety in the short term. Hope that makes sense.
It might be worthwhile talking to his GP or someone if you are concerned about the speech. It could be a sign of something else possibly and not just because he has consuming alot of alcohol.
During anytime in life living with an alcoholic is tough let alone during lockdown. I really feel for you all.
Here comes the hard part, we all have choices in life. You have to consider where you want to go from here and keep you and your family safe.
Take good care