It so sad you say that, because I know how awful my situation is and to think many people go through what I’m going through, it’s just so sad. My partner says what difference do I make to you and the kids if I’m in bed, I was like answer your own question. It makes me hate him, I get so angry and frustrated. No it isn’t normal for people to stay in bed until the late afternoon, I’ve said that before too.
My partner used to be my best friend, we worked and lived together for years and were really happy. He was a brilliant dad to my first child, he was funny and so kind. I feel sorry for my little one as they’ve never seen him as himself.Now he’s a shell of himself, he doesn’t really have a personality, I see glimmers sometimes but doesn’t last long. I don’t know if it’s the tablets, or using, or if he’s genuinely unhappy. But he’s no use with the kids/house/finances, I pretty much do everything. Sometimes he does try, but when he was at his lowest he even said he doesn’t know if family life was for him. It’s even more difficult with financial worries, and the virus. I’ve been upset and he’s walked past me before and just got back into bed, he would’ve never done that before. That’s the worst way he has behaved, he’s not nasty or horrible to me, just indifferent. Like we don’t exist, he likes to try hide or runaway when he’s used, which is why I always catch him out. He’s like a little boy who’s done something wrong. Strangest thing he has said is that the only place he feels normal and himself is at work, which I don’t understand.