I am a child of an alcoholic mother and as I do love her so much an alcoholic parents can do serious damage to a child. Children need consistency and your husband at this point wouldn’t be able to provide that consistency for them. My mom is also high functioning but as the years have progressed there were no set consequences for her so she has become less and less functioning. Your kids (like I do all the time) may feel as if there’s nothing they can do to help their father because believe me when they get old enough they will see the difference in their father when he is drunk
