Dear Scraggs
I have been where you have been. It’s heart breaking. I know.
There are places that help. Turning Point is a good support for you and your son.
Adfam and SFAD are agencies that got me through my darkest moments. And still do.
I did the CRAFT work and it helped me change and believe it or not helped him change even temporary ( 2 years) I intend to do that work over again to help me and my son with the next bit.
Debts, making his home look like a drug den. No washing, no eating, been there. My son been shot, had his face all slashed, lost a finger. Oh, yes. Not so long ago that I have forgotten.
You keep reaching out to ensure that you don’t lose yourself in the process.
No easy answers IM afraid.
Kel1 wrote me some questions in the reply to my post. It’s from the Steps or Craft programme. They might be the beginning of helping you.
Keep posting there is a silent army of Carers with a wealth of experience Real first hand experiences willing to support you. U r not alone