He attends CA to shut people up! Wow that’s definitely not a reason to access support, and definite doesn’t indicate he is anywhere near wanting to stop. If anything he sounds rather defensive which is another sign that he is deflecting/avoiding his problems.
Trying to communicate effectively with any addict is hard work. Sometimes people are so entrenched in active addiction, which leads to them doing what they want, when they want and how, regardless of what we say or do.
I’m sure leaving things as they are might not sit to well with you, however could things get better or worse?
Do you accept that you/we have no power over them and their addiction.
It feels powerless, but eventually I had to swallow that I had no power whatsoever. This mean over their thinking, decisions, behaviours etc. In other words you might not get the outcome that you want or need. Things could get worse.
I remind myself I am not responsible for any of what they do or say either – I take zero blame for anything that’s spouts from their Mouths.
The only thing we can really do is set good healthy boundaries for ourselves and move the hell on.