Humans love to play games, probably due to the hunting and gathering days – but we’ve defo moved on from them days.
The only way to not play the game is to either win/lose or not play at all. I know what I’d prefer – but then saying that sometimes I’ve got hooked in and played the games. I used to think some you lose some you win, but in the end it’s all just BS because at the end of the day our emotions aren’t for playing with.
Oh my ex used to make me feel this way – cusion me into a false sense of security and guess what – I believed him. Done wonders for my confidence In the end. In fact he destroyed me.
A way with words? Isn’t that just charm? And when we uncover that isn’t charm just manipulation! You are good enough and maybe just maybe you might have some work to do on your self esteem. It’s probably affected you and trod you down over the two years.
I’ve always been a bit of a people pleaser and a fixer so it no surprise how I stayed for so long, but the longer you stay the harder and more pain it causes.
You ain’t no second best let alone 3/4th! I think at times we can get obsessed with what they’re doing and the brain gets stuck. Try to have a day or hour when you don’t think of him and do some introspection.
If he does end up turning up just be careful, sometimes you might not want to hear/see or understand what’s been going on.