Erm I’m sure you’re letting off steam, however I think perhaps you might need to read about addiction and more specifically cocaine and the effects, especially if it’s as heavy as it sounds.
I’m sure you’re devastated, however ultimatums never usually works, in fact I think it can have the adverse affect.
Cocaine is such a powerful drug and I’m sure he will need help with this. CA meetings, local drugs service and GP is the first steps.
I think it might help you if you perhaps try not to blame yourself or your family. It’s nothing to do with how perfect your family is/was and how great your life is.
Cocaine ruins lives, breaks families and rips people apart. It’s the devil drug! It destroyed my family and my lovely loyal man and turned him into a monster!
Now, I hope you are one of the lucky ones and he really does change for you all, however he really needs to do it because he wants too, and work out why he used in the first instance.
Unfortunately we have no power over other people and their choices. And yes the trust is broke, and where drugs are involved lies are always present, along with the other crap that comes along with it.
Keep posting and talking and reading up about cocaine abuse as you might be able to identify some behaviours but also learn new ways to keep yourself safe.
Warm wishes to you