There has to be underlining issues. I have no clue what they are and I think it will take years for that to come out.
He’s a liar first and then truth, but only when squeezed/caught out! But this is a whole another level.
He started counselling in Jan £100 a week!!! But only because my mum made him. He ruined our Christmas so badly and she was so shocked. Think that was the first time she was really aware of what he’s like to me.
Of what I know this started 2013, social stuff. Before going out and just party type atmosphere. Then I’m 2016 he really started doing it regularly but no events. This time line co insides with baby 2 and 3. Had them 22 months apart. Was hell.
Then he said 2019 he just started doing it all the time. So he could get up and function. But Dec-March was terrible and by bank statements he was doing £500 – £600 a month. But In May he did £1200 – Dec – current he’s spent £4200 on drugs.
I had no clue. He lied and said he was earning less money, so that’s how he got around it. He has a very good job (although lost 3 in last 6 years) but always reemployed within a few weeks/two months. As he has studied hard in our younger child free years. We have been together 22 years in August.
I’m terms of taking it, he said he always did it in the bathroom, or outside on the patio. But since COVID he has done it in our snug. It’s a brick built room (garage size) enough space for two computer desks and a corner sofa. When I went down there – there was empty beers/bottles of wine. A bin full of bloody tissues and he forgot there was more coke – but when he confessed it was there, it was all gone. So I think he forgot he used it up – which is scary!
Sunday he got pissed out of his head and puked everywhere.
Today he said he needs to get a handle of the booze. That is def an issue.
He had been given antidepressants but obvs no use.
But GP given sleeping pills now and then we need to do all the bloods/ecg tomorrow and re see GP Friday.