Hi Smithy,
Its good that he realises its become a problem, thats half the battle won.
I dont know how well tuned you are to your husband, it may be that his using it has become the norm and you dont know the real him anymore. The issue I had was that on coke my husband was a totally different person, didn’t care, no motivation, no interest in anything other than hanging around with people who did it, going out and not coming home until the next day, then hanging and loloping on the sofa for 2 days after, biting my head off, depressed…. but when he was high he was also another person, void of responsibility, rude, self loathing sometimes, then full of it other times.
Its a tough drug to come off of, the physical withdrawal is ok with support, but the mental withdrawal is worse, its more mentally addictive than heroin i’m told. But luckily physically he’ll be ok.
Test him, you have every right to and if he’s clean he wont mind. If he’s not clean, he’ll try to tell you you dont need to do it, or get angry at the thought, which may mean you’ll give up asking (not a good sign) He may struggle to sleep properly, its part of detox, the dr will be able to help, he’ll have to be honest, and if possible go with him for support.
Feed him well, care for him, make him understand how it makes you feel and what he’s losing out on by doing coke.
Sending love x