Hi Charley,
No problem. I’m probably not the best person to answer, yes my husband is clean (5 months) but I have been here before, and the dread of the return of the addict is here always. I love him, and clean he is wonderful. On coke he’s not.
I have to live my life still thinking about him all the time, its exhausting, Learned experience makes me think ‘how will he react’ to literally every thing I do or decision I make. Thats not a good way to be. But I’m still here because there is a good man here.
There is no point setting boundaries and not following them through, if he wants to stop he will, but the consequences need to be instilled so they are clear.
Coke is an evil sly drug, it tricks people into thinking they have it under control, then boom, they dont, and theres nothing you can do about it by then.
Here if you need to talk 🙂 Thinking of you x