Louise- this sounds like hell. I’m so sorry for you and your 3 children.
You are so strong to have kicked him out and cut ties!!! Be proud, head held high and know that you are stronger than me!!!!!!
I am right at week one (haven’t even completed a week yet) so don’t have anywhere near the experience of this or even know what I will actually do if my husband messes this up.
BUT – I’m putting myself in the shoes and story you wrote –
You have been strong, you have left him, kicked him out and cut him off. You’ve done it and you had done it for the right reasons! Good on you!
When you say what do you do now? Can you explain?
If you mean by helping him, I don’t think so. The hard bit is done and over with. There is no more for him that he deserves. You need to build yourself back up and start building your own life. His is his and it’s bad. Not drag yourself into that.
Your story gave me strength for what I might have to do/face. Thank you!