Thank you for replying, I have been reading lots on this forum. It’s what has given me the realisation that this sadly ends nearly all relationships.
I am fortunate that he has identified that he has caused me this damage but sadly can’t/won’t do anything to help the situation. He has never been nasty towards me, it’s just the lies and deceit but that’s enough.
Trying to detach is where I am struggling, we work together from our home as he has his own business and I’m employed by him. And we have our children together. I just can’t see a way forward at the moment. I told him last night that I can’t go on with this relationship as it’s destroying me. But know we need time to work our how we are going to separate to spare our children as much pain as possible, amazingly they have no idea we are having problems!
I haven’t argued with him I’ve tried to be more matter of fact and agreed to disagree on most things although inside I am screaming.
At the moment I know suggesting he speaks with his GP is pointless, he so convinced there isn’t an issue. I have told him on several occasions that if ever he wants help I will be there for him without judgement, which is all I think I can do!
It just all so heart breaking