Maggie,
Congratulations on the baby news although my heart sank a little.
I hope with all my hope that his use just stays at weekends and it’s kept under control.
The problem is that it generally starts at weekends, then moves to more regularly.
But it doesn’t always. But many many 40 ish year olds I know that we’re using it socially are now hooked.
I’d get, oh it’s such and suchs birthday this week, I’m not kidding id joke that I think Steve had 13 birthdays one year. Honestly if the day ended in a Y it’d be a reason to get on it.
When he’s sober, not high, and not on a come down, tell him how you feel. Explain how it worries you, it’s not irrational. It’s a class A drug for a reason. It’s dangerous.
Sending a big hug ????