Tbh I don’t know how he stopped. It was like he saw the light. I think the fact he realised he had a hole in his nose was part of it too mind.
There is no way he’d have stopped for anyone else. He stopped mid 2019 And relapsed October 2019, first time he came home full of upset that he’d failed, it won’t happen again, roll on 2 weeks and his mindset was more of I can do it every now and then and I can control it, I don’t want to say I’ll never be able to do it. Roll on another 4 weeks and he’s doing it in the day at work and taking Valium to hide it. At this point he then realised he can’t do it every now and then… and it has to be total abstinence and he can’t drink as it lowers his guard. Alcohol is a depressant anyway so that’s really not a great combo! A recovering addict and a bottle of wine. No way!
Once he’d had seen the light he was at home for a good 4 weeks as work was a trigger, He recovered, I looked after him, fed him, reassured him, held him, talked with him. He still knows coke users, scares me to death when he sees them, but he reassures me now, rather than hides it and shouts for being ridiculous (which of course you never are it’s just their defence mechanism)
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