Codependency and intensity is what I’ve been dealing with for the last six months. I cannot believe how I relied on my ex for as much as I did. I feel a mix of emotion about that, fear, abandonment, insecure and so much more. I’m also frightened all of this will affect my future relationships, as in will I ever allow myself to fully trust another person. I don’t want to be a bitter person, but all of this has hurt me so much. I’m just despondant, different to how I was.
I’m pretty sure you’re right about them ever finding a loving healthy relationship whilst on that stuff. It’s all so destructive which has many layers of nasty.
I wouldn’t say it’s “excitement” they’re missing out on, it’s the inability to sit comfortably with themselves and live a healthy life.
One thing I do know when I was trying to understand it all I just felt insane. I had to remove myself from my ex in the end because he was really unkind/unrecognizable. By nature I’m a nice person and id always help him, despite what his done to us all, however I would not go back to that hell ever again.