Hi there,
I dont have much experience in the alcohol situation, but if it bothers you then it is a problem. In marriage you have to compromise, you may not like what the other person has to say, but if its a problem for them, then its a problem.
It does look quite excessive, looks like 60-70 units a week, and the recommended guidance is a maximum of 14.
I’d be on the floor after any of those days!
Dismissing is just a deflection, chances are that she knows it is a problem, but doesnt want to stop, or admit it to you.
Some others on here may have some advice, sorry that I don’t personally. Keep smiling, and stay positive.
Best wishes 🙂