Hi Kaza,
My husband is 6 months clean from Coke, and also doesnt drink now either, as they tend to go hand in hand for him.
I’m always worrying about a fall back, last year he stopped for a good number of months, and then started again, I could see the stressful situation coming, and boom, there it was, a couple of lines once or twice a week, and after 6 weeks, back to every day and an absent husband/father.
I’m holding on the hope that one time he’ll stop for good. He seems in a good place right now, and very negative towards friends who do it still.
I never left my husband, so I wouldnt tell anyone to leave, unless they were in danger of course. But i’m sure you have to get to a point where enough is enough right. His problem isn’t your problem, thats correct, however his problem is making a problem for you, and that isnt fair. He isnt showing the same empathy to you as you are to him.
Marriage is about compromise, but when you are married to an addict, you do all the compromising and they seem to do what they like, even though i’m sure they’d protest different, haha.
Have a read of my old threads, my husband has been on coke most of our 15 year relationship, with some breaks, some longer than others. The good the bad and the ugly you’ll read from my posts.
I’m in a good place right now, but the fear of a relapse never leaves, and I still choose my words carefully, and think about his reaction before speaking, even though now, I dont need to!
xx