As I write this I’m feeling so grateful for all of the comments and everyone makes so much sense. I was able last night to speak to my son as he was sober and alert. Instead of talking to him about his behaviour and how it’s not acceptable in my home I spoke of my feelings and how the last month has effected me. I was unaware that he had been speaking with my 80 year old mum earlier in the day. He was very remorseful and does not want to hurt anyone especially his close family which I do know is the truth as an addict is just far removed from their values when in the madness. We seemed to turn a bit of a corner and my anxiety levels decreased. Again I’m hopeful we are out the other side of crazy past month and time for him to do some work on himself. I will continue with this support as it is something I have never done before and found it very helpful to keep me grounded. He is currently seeing his daughter then coming back home to talk through some things
