Hi
thanks for writing back. All ultimatums have been broken already. When he first came out of rehab the rules were:
– he must go to 3 meetings a week
– he must have his benefits sorted
– he must be having counselling
He wouldn’t go to the counselling from the start and the 3 meetings a week soon dwindled to 1. When Covid happened he didn’t want to use zoom and I do understand that; I’ve found work meetings in zoom very weird.
It’s just that he won’t tell the truth. The aggression happens if I won’t give him money; it is his money but I’m looking after it (as he asked) so that he can get a place to live if his own. He doesn’t need any money, he has food etc. He can’t account for £400 of his wages and will not tell us where the money is gone. At first he said we should trust him and now he’s just saying it’s not our business. He’s threatened to take my car and other belongings because I have £300 of his (to save for a house)
It’s just the worst thing. Before rehab he wasn’t himself anymore and people were threatening him and his family. I really thought everything might be ok after he had lost everything and then had learnt, at rehab, how to stay clean but I think he will always go back to drugs and now I’m completely stuck because he’s in my house. I can’t just make him leave, he has nowhere to go. I’m sure everyone says it but he is not a bad person really. He’s very intelligent and kind but he is also a liar, a bully and a thief. It’s affecting my whole life and changing me.