Hey
Thanks for sharing
You are in a tough position as you clearly care about him, and seems like you are waiting for him to get it together – the problem being that unless he admits he has an issue nothing will change unfortunately.
It sounds very much like he has addiction issues that really need some help and support, but only if he is willing and no half measures.
Gambling is a really difficult one. Not only do you haBe the strain caused by trust issues, it also creates financial insecurity too – having to pay for everything must be really upsetting especially right now.
Do you think a break of some sort may work? It may give you time to assess properly, and may be a wake up call for him
Does he realise this is an issue and is he ready to get some help?