We are in a not too dissimilar situation. I have not been intimate with my partner for 2/3 yrs….I wonder if we had that if things would be different for us. As it is I have asked him to leave after 15 + yrs of the same (of varying degrees over the years) and this time he seems to be taking the request seriously and is viewing properties this weekend. The secrecy of the drinking is the thing that wounds me the most. It is hard to move forward with someone when they look you in the eye and just lie. After years of this I find it near impossible to respect him. I hope you can talk and find a way forward….together or apart.
