Maybe he is telling you what you want to hear to keep you around as he could think he is losing his grip. I’m throwing that out there and it might not be so. But these people are skilled at manipulation.
As for making you look bad – to who? And what about YOU in all this. From what I’m observing you’re hurting also. It’s not fair that you are the only one he can Dump and run his problems on. A healthy person should have people all over to talk to. You have your friends don’t you. Ask yourself why has h burnt all his bridges as these are all red flags. You know this you’re a bright girl. But you’re hurt and disappointed, I do understand and reading this might sound harsh but if you just give yourself time and break free you would most likely agree.
It’s not fair how he is treating you and like ive said before and will keep saying you don’t deserve all this. You deserve love, Respect and all the rest of it that comes from a healthy relationship. What he wants is an ideation at the moment. He needs to sort his demons out.
Be strong ????