Ok so I once met someone I thought was my soul mate – he probably would have been if he wasn’t hooked on this drug. I absolutely loved him, totally besotted. He did all this as you’ve mentioned, kept coming back to me, opening up to me and when things went to crap it would be me who was his “safe place”. We would spend hours and hours talking and I could listen all day long to him. He slept about and told me, and I still thought the world of him – I still do! He was also very good and making me feel like his “princess” and no one came close to me!
But. In the end I couldn’t keep doing this because I was always waiting about – and believe me if I tried to end stuff then wow he’d come back in full force. However, when we settled again the pattern went back the same!
To be honest I got used to it in the end and accepted the situation for what it was. I was stuck on him! My mind was focused on the next time he’d call or make contact and a part of me hoped he would need me soon!
Can you see the similarities here. I get it! You love him and you care for him! But take a step back! Put some boundaries up and keep your options open because this bull crap is unfair and unhealthy!
Now, to date with this one I talk about i expect he will call with all his promises soon! I’m considering telling him to get lost but I know he wouldn’t accept it well!
It’s all hard but somehow I think we have to untangle ourselves and begin to LIVE our lives without all the above! But us humans love to fall in love with the idea of love ????