This is true Jenny, when my ex partner went he was demanding 7k from me strangely! Obvs I said NO. But he was relentless, and I did think he may have run up debts. He then asked for ladders at our house which are worth money and again I said no.
Spot on you can’t have a relationship with an addict as like me I went down like a sinking ship! And it nearly killed me.