Hi I completely relate to this. My husband has always done coke since the ages I guess if around 18 I met him when he was 30. He has never hidden his using to him is normal and completely acceptable because to him it’s recreational and I’m the one with the problem because I don’t see it like that. My husband will spend anywhere from £50 – over £1000 in a “session” a session is every weekend minimum sometimes these roll over into the week. In a way it’s lucky he has been able to fun this lifestyle but because I have his bank logins and he can’t get to his money he will rack up debts and then spend a few weeks paying them off. This is my problem now is that extreme lengths he is going to to get what he wants. I can not control the spending anymore because what I think was 250 for a night is actually 1000. He says it’s my fault all he wants is for me to sit with him on a Friday and join in. I have said I will not do that. I don’t want to end up in his situation in years to come. I’ve tried to compromise and won’t get upset on the Friday as I know that’s his weakness after a stressful week, but it always goes beyond that. Our weekends are dictated by drugs and alcohol, 3 beers and it’s game over. My husband certainly does it for. Reaction he hates to be told not to do something and if I ask him not to he will hit it much harder. I have made his treatment of me acceptable because I have allowed it to go on for so long and I know that has to change but my heart currently rules me.
